Getting over infedelity?

I am a male getting over my wifes wrong doings. Been married for 12 years and she had an affair for over a year with another man at her work. I have only known now for 1 1/2 months her affair stopped feb 2008, so still early stages of getting over the heartache. I think I am doing well until you listen to the radio and bang you feel like **** again. Certain songs just set you off. I am interested in hearing from people that have gone through something similar or are going through it now, to see how there handling it, I don't won't answers like leave that B***H, as we all have a personal lives and are all in different situations. I love my wife and she is madly in love with me she just got very selfish and somewhat lost. I am not delusional, I just want to keep my family together and keep moving forward, I believe my chances of staying together are very high, is there anyone out there that has gotten through this. I have not yet seen a councillor and want to know other stories like this